The Pathway to Authenticity is Self Approval

Every day that we pretend to be someone we are not, to gain the approval of others, we slowly but surely erode away another chunk of our true identity. Eleanor Roosevelt famously said; “What other people think of you is none of your business.”

It’s time to escape “The Performance Trap” and become your authentic self once again.

You put on your best performance with the hope that you gain acceptance. But there is no guarantee that you will receive approval. Unhealthy self talk creates even more doubt and uncertainty of our worth. The result is that our identity takes a beating.

A performance is something I DO. My identity is who I believe I AM.

The way to escape this performance trap and becoming authentic again is SELF approval. Performing is not the problem; it’s the motive for doing so that is. The trap is set when the underlying reason we are performing is to get the approval and be accepted.

Step 1: Take sole responsibility for defining your worth.
Step 2: Engage in positive self talk that builds your identity.
Step 3: Perform from a position of SELF APPROVAL, rather than seeking it from others.

What are the most important people in your world missing out on by only seeing a counterfeit version of you instead of the real one?