Removing your Roadblocks

SUMMARY

Do you know exactly where it is that you want to go, where you are now, but things keep getting in the way and are stopping you from getting there?

Hi, this is Grant Herbert, Emotional Intelligence Speaker and Trainer of the Year and Master Coach Trainer, and today, I want to finish off this little section we've been doing around planning to get more out of the second half of 2021 than you did out of the first by completing our R4 Roadmap and looking at what it is that you need to add so that you can overcome those roadblocks and get from where you are now to where you want to go.

The type of skills that we want to add are those that I've talked about before. We're not talking about technical skills that we need to get here. We're talking about skills that are going to build up our identity, that are going to eliminate those self-doubts, and they're going to give us the confidence that we need and the capability that we need to move forward.

What I like to do is use a four-part process in any behaviour change, in any mindset change, and I'm going to teach it to you today. So, get your pen and paper ready. Let's get started.

The first element in this process is to Recognise.

The second thing we want to do is Reject.

The third is to Replace that behaviour, that thought, that mindset with one that is actually going to give us what it is that we need so that we can move forward.

The fourth and final part of the process is to Repeat.

TRANSCRIPT

Do you know exactly where it is that you want to go, where you are now, but things keep getting in the way and are stopping you from getting there?

Hi, this is Grant Herbert, Emotional Intelligence Speaker and Trainer of the Year and Master Coach Trainer, and today, I want to finish off this little section we've been doing around planning to get more out of the second half of 2021 than you did out of the first by completing our R4 Roadmap and looking at what it is that you need to add so that you can overcome those roadblocks and get from where you are now to where you want to go.

So over the last few weeks, we've been going on a journey together where we had a look at four particular elements that make up your planning process so that you can get much more value out of the effort that you're putting in so that the end of 2021 looks a lot different to what it would have if you hadn't put that effort in.

So just to recap, what we looked at is a four-part process where we mapped out exactly where it is that we want it to go. We looked at that in relation to where we are right now. We looked at those things that we were doing or not doing that usually stops us from getting the momentum that we wanted.

So this week, what we want to do is we want to add the resources that will overcome those roadblocks and help you to get from where you are now, finally, to where you want to go. What I'm talking about today is what do I need to do to build me up? What do I need to do so that I can become who I need to become to overcome those roadblocks?

The type of skills that we want to add are those that I've talked about before. We want to make sure that we are looking at behaviour change. We're looking at our Emotional Intelligence, our Social Intelligence. We're not talking about technical skills that we need to get here. We're talking about skills that are going to build up our identity, that are going to eliminate those self-doubts, and they're going to give us the confidence that we need and the capability that we need to move forward. What I like to do is use the four-part process in any behaviour change, in any mindset change, and I'm going to teach it to you today. So, get your pen and paper ready. Let's get started.

The first element in this process is to Recognise. We identified what these roadblocks could be, and we made a list of those. What we want to do now in this recognise process is we want to call them out for what they are. We want to recognise any thoughts, beliefs, behaviours, and make sure that we clearly identify them as what they're doing to stop us rather than what we think they were doing to help us.

The second thing we want to do is Reject. We have thought before this thing was doing us good, that I was doing this for a reason. And that internal dialogue that we have programmed, we've convinced ourselves to let it let us know when we're going to do things again to move outside our normal comfort zone. Now that we've recognised what it is, whether it be a belief, a thought or a behaviour, now we want to reject it and go, "Well, hang on a minute. No, it's not actually giving me a positive result like I thought it was, so I'm not going to do that anymore." Without rejecting it, once again, we're not going to go any further.

The third thing we need to do, now that we have recognised and rejected the things that we're doing or not doing, is to Replace that behaviour, that thought, that mindset with one that is actually going to give us what it is that we need so that we can move forward. A lot of times that's going to just be the exact opposite of what we were doing before. What we want to do is we want to make sure that we replace it with something that's actually resourceful, something that is actually going to help you, something that is going to remove those roadblocks and allow you to go forward.

The fourth and final part of the process is to Repeat. We know through the wonders of neuroscience that neuroplasticity is all around rebuilding the brain wiring. It's about rebuilding new neural pathways. So instead of when this happens, I normally go there, now, "When this happens, I go there instead." And over a period of time, those new neural pathways are built. So, once we've recognised, we've rejected, and we replaced, we just continue to repeat over and over the new strategy, the new belief, the new behaviour, just like we did to build those strong pathways with the old ones that we want to get rid of.

So, there we have a four-part process for behaviour change, for mindset change, where we can recognise and call it out for what it is, reject it and say, "It doesn't have a place in my life anymore." Replace it with something that's actually going to get the results we want based on logic, not on our uncertainties and our self-doubt. And then we're going to repeat that over and over again. And through that repetition, we're going to rewire the neural pathways in our brain, and we're going to become who we need to become so that we can overcome those roadblocks to go from where we are now to where we want to go.

We do a lot of work in this area in our Emotional Intelligence work in the area of Personal Power. Over the coming weeks, I want to continue to build a platform for you around that and talk about all things Emotional Intelligence. So, go ahead, get started on removing those roadblocks by adding the resources that you need to right now.

Well, that's it from me for another week. Join me again next week, when we go back into the wonderful world of Emotional Intelligence, where we look at the skills and competencies that we all need so that we can navigate our emotions in a healthier and more resourceful way, and therefore, have a greater relationship with ourselves, with others, and a higher level of performance over a sustained period of time. I'll see you then.