Navigate Your Emotions
SUMMARY
Do you try to leave your emotions at the door or manage them like you've been taught to do? I'm sure if you do that, just like me and everybody else, it creates some problems for you.
Emotions are designed to give us clues and cues for things happening around us in our world. Therefore, we are not able to separate from them or leave them outside the door.
Emotional Intelligence is the ability to be aware of the emotion you're experiencing in the moment and then use that information to manage your behaviour.
TRANSCRIPT
Do you try to leave your emotions at the door or manage them like you've been taught to do?
Hi, this is Grant Herbert, VUCA Leadership and Sustainable Performance Coach, and today I want to continue our conversation around our personal leadership by helping you navigate your emotions.
Like you, I have had these things said to me: "Stop being emotional." "Leave your emotions at the door." "Manage your emotions." Unfortunately, these things are not what you want to do at all. You're a human being, and human beings are 'emotional' beings. It is what sets us apart from artificial intelligence.
Emotions are designed to give us clues and cues for things happening around us in our world. Therefore, we are not able to separate from them or leave them outside the door. As an emotional being, you need to harness and leverage the power of your emotions.
What you do need to manage is that gap — that process — between the emotion and the feeling. It's the psychological, the thought patterns and the internal dialogue that are the things you need to manage. And that is EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE.
Emotional Intelligence is the ability to be aware of the emotion you're experiencing in the moment and then use that information to manage your behaviour.
As we unpack each of these areas, I'm going to look at what's called the four-quadrant model of Social and Emotional intelligence: self-awareness, self-management, social awareness, and relationship management.
So, this is a vital set of skills. You need to unlearn those myths of leaving your emotions at the door, of managing them, and looking at them as soft skills that are nice to have. You need to shift your thinking and consider these as important skills. I'll see you then.
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