Managing Your Expectations
SUMMARY
Do you have trouble getting your expectations to meet up with what you can actually get done? Well, this is a problem for most people, and it stems from how you see yourself.
Your expectations determine how much you take on. How much you take on determines how much you get done. So, it's a vitally important place to start.
There are 2 types of expectations that we need to talk about here: the expectations you have of yourself, and the expectations of others and how you navigate those expectations.
TRANSCRIPT
Do you have trouble getting your expectations to meet up with what you can actually get done? Well, this is a problem for most people, and it stems from how you see yourself.
Hi, this is Grant Herbert, leadership and sustainable performance coach, and today I want to continue our conversation about this shift from time to outcomes in your productivity by helping you manage your expectations.
There are 2 types of expectations that we need to talk about here.
The first one is the one that creates the most problems, and that is the expectations you have of yourself.
A lot of times, you expect more of yourself than you've got to give. And the reason is it's linked to those 3 universal fears: not being enough, not belonging, and not being loved. The performance trap, the approval addiction, the imposter syndrome — all those things are the root cause of unrealistic expectations that you place on yourself.
The first step here is to look at the expectations you're placing on yourself. You can use the simple model: for what purpose and at what cost?
So, when you look at the expectations you've placed on yourself, ask yourself: "Why? For what purpose have I placed that high expectation on myself?"
The second area is the expectations of others and how you navigate those expectations.
For most people that I work with, the unrealistic expectations that they think other people have of them are all in their minds. Look at that area first, and then at the expectations people have of you, and navigate those with boundaries and assertiveness by speaking your truth.
Getting a healthy balance in your expectations will help you get more done and enjoy the journey along the way. Well, that's it from me for another week. I'll see you then.
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