Make Your Promise A Priority

SUMMARY

Are you already a couple of weeks into a year, and your new year's resolution is not quite working out as you wanted it to? Or did you join me last week and start your own revolution?

Hi, this is Grant Herbert, Emotional Intelligence Speaker and Trainer of the Year, and Master Coach Trainer, and today I want to continue our conversation around starting our year, well so that you can get to the end with the results you want, by helping you make your promise a priority.

The reason why most New Year's resolutions fail is that you don't make them a priority. So you don't have a problem with getting things done, some shifts in mindset and behavior need to be done so that your New Year's resolution becomes purposeful and you want to achieve. So, you can still achieve the result of that new year's resolution in 2022. The difference is you need to become a priority.

So, to help you to do that, I'm going to lay down five key principles:

Number one is Procrastination is a Strategy.

Number two is the Performance Trap.

Number three is Being Precedes Doing.

Number four is Become A Priority.

Number five (the one most people don't like) is Seek Accountability.

Well, that's it from me for another week. Join me again next week when we continue this conversation around setting ourselves up in January. Doing so will help you have the best possible opportunity to get the outcome you want by the end of the year, where I'm going to help you identify and clear anything out of the way that's holding you back.

I'll see you then.

TRANSCRIPT

Are you already a couple of weeks into a year, and your new year's resolution is not quite working out as you wanted it to? Or did you join me last week and start your own revolution?

Hi, this is Grant Herbert, Emotional Intelligence Speaker and Trainer of the Year, and Master Coach Trainer, and today I want to continue our conversation around starting our year, well so that you can get to the end with the results you want, by helping you make your promise a priority.

As I talked to you about last week, most people start "New Year's resolutions." The challenge is, they do it with great intention. Unfortunately, they don't follow it up with the action required to go from a great idea or a great intention to implementing something and getting the results they want.

The reason why most New Year's resolutions fail is that you don't make them a priority. So you don't have a problem with getting things done, some shifts in mindset and behavior need to be done so that your New Year's resolution becomes purposeful and you want to achieve. So, you can still achieve the result of that new year's resolution in 2022. The difference is you need to become a priority.

So, to help you to do that, I'm going to lay down five key principles.

Number one is Procrastination is a Strategy.

You've all heard about this thing called procrastination. You need to understand exactly what procrastination is and call it out so that you can remove it once and for all.

You see, procrastination itself is not the issue. Procrastination is a strategy that you're using to stop you from moving forward outside your comfort zone. Procrastination prevents you from moving towards those things that you fear, so that internal dialogue is feeding you information that says, "let's hold off on doing that because if you do that, it's going to mean this."

So, when you understand that procrastination is a strategy, you can employ a new strategy.

Number two is the Performance Trap.

The performance trap is when you "perform" to get approval from others. Unfortunately, you don't always get approval when you do that. Whether or not you get that approval determines whether you feel good about yourself or not. Being in the performance trap erodes your identity because you become a people pleaser.

So, when you look at the Performance Trap in the context of your New Year's resolution, what you need to do is make sure that the reason why you set that New Year's resolution is actually for your benefit, and it's not for feeding that Performance Trap.

Number three is Being Precedes Doing.

When you focus on getting stuff done without building the foundational principles, you run into trouble and roadblocks. So, the first thing to do is to work on who you need to become so that you can do the things you need to do to have the result that you want to have with that New Year's Resolution.

Number four is Become A Priority.

One of the simple reasons why you may not be achieving what you want to achieve in your life is that everything else is a priority, except you. When you have a mindset that says self-care is selfish, you get that twisted around. Make sure that you become the priority in your life — not in a way where you don't care about anybody else, but make sure there's a balance between taking care of others with self taken care of.

Number five (the one most people don't like) is Seek Accountability.

Left to my own devices, I'm not going to get as much done. I'm not going to become who I want to become unless I've got some people in my life that can speak into my life. I'm talking about trusted people with a skill set that you may not have — people who have a vested interest in seeing you achieve what you want to achieve this year.

Well, that's it from me for another week. Join me again next week when we continue this conversation around setting ourselves up in January, where I'm going to help you identify and clear anything out of the way that's holding you back.

I'll see you then.